I can't be the only one out there fuming over having conflicting priorities. Why do I desire so much yet have so little time to accomplish it all?
Want to know the real downer? The comparison thief and mommy guilt sweep in and tell us everyone is doing it better and we'll never be able to do it well enough. No wonder there's so much mental illness going around! We can never seem to win no matter how we spin our wheels!
But, what if we can? What if we take control and build the life we want? What if we gave ourselves grace and accepted that NO ONE can do it all?? We need to decide what is enough and what is enough for right now.
Is it easy? NOPE! When you see the word “impatient” in the dictionary, my name is next to it as the definition. If I want to lose weight, have a successful side business, run a horse and mental illness ministry then I want all those things now! I need to work to them now or they'll never happen, right?
But, what happens if I miss my life along the way? What if I spend my kid's childhood chasing the things I wanted? I'd wake up one day with everything I wanted and regret not living in the moments I had. Is it worth it? Not to me. And probably not to anyone who made those decisions and is in that place right now, either.
So, what do we do about it?
Seriously, we just breathe. Like, deep, take back control of your mind breathing. The only thing sitting around being peeved that you can't do everything is doing is firing you up, making you want to drink, and keeping you from achieving ANY of it at all. Just breathe, take back the control, and focus.
Lay out the priorities
So, really, write them down. Go ahead, I'll wait. Got them? Ok, now, put them in order. Then, figure out how much time you have to work on them. Have enough time for 5? Awesome, start with tasks that work on the top 5. Just enough room for 1? Guess what, that's ok! Working toward even just 1 thing is better than none. As you complete some or your situation changes, you can add more in.
Let it go
There's absolutely nothing you can do about the fact that you can't do it all. Nope. I tried. You just can't. Figure out how to let it go and be ok with that. Barn time, painting, gardening, CBD, music, a bath, calming oils, playing with the dog, whatever. Escape the place of stress and frustration and go to the happy place. It's easier to tell yourself that it's ok to let it go when you are in your place of peace. The place where things are ok and good and not overwhelming.
Got it? Good. Now, have I mastered all of this? Heck no! But I'm way closer to being good at this then I was before. It's amazing the progress you make when you take a lot of even small, far apart steps. You can still get somewhere and it doesn't even feel like it takes as long as it seemed like it would. Try it. You'll see. Did you? Comment and let us know how it went!